Reader Karen S. from Atlanta, Georgia writes:
I’m looking to donate my eggs, but I read on a couple web sites that egg donors can’t have sex when they’re donating. I understand why they don’t want me taking birth control pills or hormonal contraceptives, but why can’t I have sex, provided I use condoms? It’s not like I’m not qualified. I’m 25 years old, have had one child, have a great job, and graduated from a good college. I’d really like to donate eggs, but I don’t understand why I can’t have sex with my boyfriend while I’m doing it.
Karen, that’s a great question. The reason egg donor agencies want you to abstain from sexual intercourse is that the FSH (follicle stimulating hormones) you are given during an egg donation cycle makes you extremely fertile. Not only does the drug increase your chance of getting pregnant, it also increases your chance of having multiples (twins, triplets, quadruplets, etc).
Having sex during the donation cycle could also expose you to sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV, herpes, or HPV, which–depending on the agency– could jeopardize the cycle. While most agencies do not allow donors to have any STD’s, some do.
While I understand that you love your boyfriend and would like to continue having sex with him, if you’re serious about donating your eggs, I have to strongly urge you against it. An egg donation cycle only lasts about three to six weeks, which is not an incredibly long time to wait. If you need extra motivation to momentarily stop having sex, think of the people you’ll be helping and the money you’ll be making!
But if you don’t feel you can go without sex for that long and decide not to donate eggs, that’s perfectly fine, too.
Check out our Guide to Donating Eggs for more tips and advice on becoming an egg donor.